SafetyForWomen

Written by "Amanda Ploof"

Hello, I am 22 years old and a mother of a 3 month old son and I am abused by my husband. It all started before we got married. He get drunk and would tell me he use to beat his first and 2nd wife but I still married thinking it be different for me but I was wrong.

First it was yelling, then he would tell me he would hit me. He would say stuff like I was lucky he not hit me because he could really hurt me. Then the grabbing started. He would grab me by the arm so hard it would leaves marks, he would pin me to the wall so I could not move and yell. Then one day he got so drung and grabed my arm telling me he was going hit me and I told him I was not scared of him so he told me I batter be hecause he could kill me. Then he pushed me so hard a almost fall. I finel thongh he calm down so I went to bed he would come in and yell call me names then he set on the bad and puch me so hard I fell of the bed.

Then I got pranget. We got in to it he was so drunk he grab my arms and puch in to the door and for the first time I was scared. I though he was going hit me and all I could think of was not to let him so I slaped him because I though he would hit my tummy and make me lose my baby. Then the same nigh he trow rock at me and he would hold his fist up and tell me he wish I would lose the baby but he never did touch me because he had is drug buddy over. He told my husband if he wanted any drug he would not touch me so he stoped he final calm down.

When I was 4 months prangent we got in to it he wanted money for the drugs and I would not give it to him so he hit me 2 times on the arm telling me next time it be my face. Then he grabbed a baseball bat and told if I not give him the money he hit me with it so I gave him the money. He left but he come back with the stuff and telling me he was sorry he hit me he was crying he said it never happen again and I told him I forgive him. I belive he would not do it again but I was wrong because when I was 6 months prangent we had no money and no food because he took all the money for the drugs and you can't get food without money. Finally we got a call telling us we could move in with my family so we could get my husband clean the day before the move he was getting high on that stuff his lighter was out so he was useing a candle and I not want him doing them drugs so I blow out the candle and he slaped me in the face and all I did was go to bed telling my self it all stop when we get to Texas. But I was wrong. He started telling me who I can and can't talk to, where I can and can't go. He had to know where I was at ever minute, even when I went to the bathroom. He would give me money and I have to tell him how much I spent, where and what I got he even reads my mail and e-mails.

So finely on march 31 2006 I had my son. He was so sweet but that only was for 2 weeks then the yelling started back. He would yell at me at welmart where people could hear. He would call me names. He would tell me woman know nothing and men knew it all.

Then on june 3 2006 we went to eat. He got drunk. He went 6 months no drinking so when he got drunk he got mean and started yelling at me we was on the side of the road walking. He would tell me I was a bad mother the he grabed me so hard I though he pull my clothes off he let go of me. We got behind this church and for some reason I can't remember why but I set down on the ground by then the yelling got worse my son started crying so I was feeding him but he was still in his stroller. My husband would tell me he would not hit me. He say he could go to jail if he did. Then he hit me so hard on the arm 3 times it turn purple it as the first time ever he lift a mark and again he told me he hit my face next time and I told him I was not scared so he started coming to me with his fist up telling me I batter be scared. Then he put his hands in my face I was so scared he would hit me again. I could not look at him he then kind of man if you don't look it makes him worse be he grabbed my son from me and left and went home I was scared to go but finely I got home and he final he calm down but he keep telling me he was sorry. Hi hit me but I should not make him mad and I would tell him I was sorry knowing I had no clue what maid him mad

Then 5 days ago I not fold up the baby diaper up so he slaped me. I always though it was from drinking and the drugs that maid him mean. They was part of it but now I know he don't have to drink or do drugs I now know he could be mean when he not drung or high he finely off the drugs and he went from jan 13 2006 to june 3 2006 no dranking so when he got drunk he got mad and hit me but then on june 5 he got drunk and was so sweet my dady and stepmom try's to get me to leave him but I can't. I love him will he get worst or better.